It is difficult to impress upon some individuals their need of the new birth in Christ, because they are so easily offended at the thought that anyone would question them on their merit to deserve heaven. They feel insulted!
They thought is, “What makes you think I am not going to heaven?” “I can’t believe that you think that way about me!”
I would counter that assertion trying not to be insulting, “What makes you think that you are?”
The real motivation in asking someone if they have received Christ as their Savior may have the appearance of being negative or insulting, but the opposite is actually the truth!
“All have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.” We all stand in the same condition … lost and broken, dead and separated from God, with no ability to atone for the crimes we have all committed in our lives. Most times the question of salvation is brought up and found offensive because the offended party wants to believe that they are good enough, religious enough, right enough, and perceive that their righteousness is being brought into question, and they want you to believe the same about them. Actually, the question is raised to prompt one to question themselves . . not because the questioner thinks badly of them. If the questioner did not care they would not be asking at all. The fact of the matter is that nobody is good enough! NOBODY can do enough to escape the penalty of their crimes (sins)! You may very well be much nicer than and not as bad as others, generally speaking. But ALL have sinned. There is no escaping that.
“The wages of sin is death . . . ” The penalty for sin is death, not doing good things or trying to live right (Ephesians 2:8-9 … 8 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: 9 Not of works, lest any man should boast.). Not being baptized or joining a church, (Titus 3:5 Not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to his mercy he saved us,) or anything else! The penalty is death! And the penalty must be paid!
The actual presentation of the love of God is found in the giving of His own Son to shoulder the penalty for us. In doing so He is able to offer forgiveness of our sins because the penalty of death has been paid in full. Justice has been served in our behalf by One Who had no penalty to pay for Himself.
This forgiveness is offered to ALL! “. . . WHOSOEVER believeth in Him . . . ”
Without personally receiving this forgiveness through faith, one is ALREADY condemned!
John 3:18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.
John 3:36 He that believeth on the Son hath everlasting life: and he that believeth not the Son shall not see life; but the wrath of God abideth on him.
1 John 5:12 He that hath the Son hath life; and he that hath not the Son of God hath not life.
So, to ask the question “Do you know where you’re going when you die?” or “Have you made your peace with God?” or “Have you received Christ as your Savior?” or some variation of that, is not a matter of being insulted, it is a matter of deepest concern to the one who has asked you. Concern for your ultimate well-being and destiny.
Whether or not you choose to believe and accept Christ is another question, but please understand the motivation of the person asking. They have shown great compassion in that they are acting in accord to what they believe to be true. They believe that if you do not receive Christ that you are bound for an eternity in the fires of hell. They aren’t making any kind of claim to be more righteous or better than you . . . simply that they have a deep desire to see you enjoy the same forgiveness that they have received because it is freely offered to anyone that will accept it.
Therefore I ask you . . . . Do you know for sure where you will spend eternity? Have you received Christ as your Savior? Will you go to Heaven when you die? Are YOU saved?
Romans 10:13 For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.